CONFIDANTE
I call myself a Confidante because it best describes the nature of what I do. A professional Confidante is someone you can confide in, have confidence in and who will regard what you have to say in absolute confidentiality.
My role as a Confidante is to be someone who people can talk to about their issues, struggles and concerns, including those things they feel they can't talk to anyone else about. I provide an environment where people can freely share themselves in an entirely non-judgmental space. My role is also to be a sounding board and, when appropriate, to act as an advisor.
Regardless of how successful we are, all of us have concerns that, to some degree, we struggle with. These concerns show up in the relationships that are most important to us – with our partners, our children, our colleagues, etc. Unfortunately, it's just as common for people to be 'stuck' in their ability to resolve their concerns, and they are often left feeling that there is neither the room, nor the freedom, nor even the clarity to discuss their concerns with their partner, or child, or colleagues.
My experience is that, oftentimes, what is more valuable for people than mentoring or coaching, is to be asked the right questions, in the right way, and at the right time - providing people with the clarity to be able to connect with their own answers that they know to be true for themselves.
In my work with people I've found that even those who appear personally and professionally successful are commonly (and often secretly) engaged in behaviors that they feel ashamed of. Even with their best level of insight and communication, they still wrestle with how to resolve, or reconcile, or free themselves of the shame, or guilt, or upset they feel. For many people, not having somebody to talk to about these issues, can create significant emotional turmoil, and clearly this gets in the way of them being able to move freely and effectively forward in their lives.
Having a professional Confidante to talk with is incredibly important. Not only does it allow people to speak freely but, more importantly, discover how to bring clarity and resolution to whatever issues in their life they are currently struggling with.
Who am I as a Confidante?
Being a successful Confidante requires subtle and complex cognitive and non-cognitive skills that are developed and honed over a great deal of time. Even so, there is no specific, formal training or qualification involved in becoming a Confidante. It truly comes down to who the person is - their education and training, their life skills and professional experience, their demeanor and personality and, most importantly, whether you connect with them.
Let me tell you a little about myself because, naturally, it profoundly influences my work as a Confidante. I bring a unique combination of experience, insights, wisdom, modalities, skill-sets and worldliness to my role as a Confidante. I have the wisdom and life experience of a 66-year-old woman. I've been surrounded by entrepreneurs and successful professionals since my early 20s. I've been self-employed since I was 23 years old. I have the relationship wisdom and experience of having sustained a 43+ year highly-successful marriage, and I'm the mother of three wonderful, adult children and a grandmother to two beautiful boys.
Regarding my formal education, I have both a Bachelor of Arts degree from the University of Melbourne, and a Post Graduate Diploma in Education from Mercy College. I am a Certified Clinical Hypnotherapist. I've also trained in many other modalities and methods that enhance and contribute enormously to my success as a professional Confidante.
And with regard to what I value and who I am as a person, I love people and I am passionate about my work. I love direct, open, honest communication. I am welcoming and warm. I bring my relentless enthusiasm for life into creating relationships. People consistently say that they find my energy to be completely genuine and contagious. I am blessed with the gift of making deep and immediate connections. I have the ability to listen to the complexity of what people say, and reflect it back to them more simply and with far more clarity. My unique ability includes creating an environment for people where they feel free to safely and comfortably reveal what's troubling them.
When you're around me you will discover that I'm committed to you feeling better about yourself, and I consider it an honor and a privilege to be included so intimately into the fabric of people's lives.
WHAT PEOPLE SAY